How Not To Accept An Offer - Chapter 2 - Don't Say 'Yes, But'

Any time you say 'Yes, but' to a job offer, you're not accepting.

Accepting a job offer is an exciting moment, but it’s essential to do it properly. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is saying “Yes, but” when an offer is made. This phrase undermines the excitement and creates an immediate conflict. The hiring manager hears "Yes" but is then caught off guard by the "but," which can feel like a bait-and-switch. To avoid this, always ensure your acceptance is clear and enthusiastic, and never create confusion by introducing hesitations or negotiations in the same sentence.

If you need to adjust any details, such as start dates or working hours, the key is to use “And” instead of “but.” This allows you to accept the offer while also explaining any necessary changes, such as personal circumstances or prior commitments. It’s important to be transparent but also to phrase these changes delicately, ensuring that the hiring manager understands the context. For example, if you’re dealing with a personal situation that affects your start date, stating it with “And” helps you maintain your professionalism while addressing your concerns.

Ultimately, the best way to approach an offer is to either say a clear “yes” or “no.” Complications arise when we try to negotiate or request changes in a way that is unclear or hesitant. By sticking to simple and direct communication, you can avoid unnecessary confusion and ensure you handle job offers with professionalism and confidence. If you’re interested in mastering the art of accepting offers, listen to the audio chapter from “The Effective Interview Series” for more insights on navigating these crucial moments.

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